The Fourth Monad:
with Victoria Marina-Tompkins and Paul Avellar
This article is exerpted from a Michael Chat taped in Half Moon Bay, California.
(The text has been edited somewhat and personal information, identification, and references have been removed. -Ed.)
The onset of the fourth monad generally has to do with a feeling of unrest and a feeling that something is just not quite right. The fragment is sitting there with everything falling apart around them saying, "Oh my god, what is happening to me?" This is usually the moment before the engagement of the monad and this is what Michael calls "the pit". This means that everything is disintegrating. So this is a different kind of image than the third monad when the person wants to gain independence and separate from the family of origin. People who are in the early stages of the fourth monad often say "Everything's fine. No it’s not. What's wrong? Everything's fine. What's wrong? There's nothing wrong. Why do I feel like something's wrong?" As you can see, it is a time of intense questioning.
The House that Jack Built: So say you are a mature soul and you had young soul parents and you built a really, really big successful young soul career. You've got a big house and you've got a five car garage, you've got a swimming pool in the back and you've got the whole thing, and your fourth monad comes along and you go - hah! - this isn't me. Well that's a lot of stuff that has to fall down. But say you're a mature soul and you have old soul parents, you might actually have to build up a little bit. You might have to move up.
Paul: You might have to move out of the tepee into a house.
Victoria: That's just such a great image. But, in fact, you might not have to tear down as much. On the other hand, you as a baby soul might be going through the third monad and you have mature soul parents and you finally have to separate yourself from your parents and claim your right to be baby. So maybe you have a young soul who's living with mature soul parents and he says, "Okay, enough of this relationship stuff, I'm outta here. I'm going to the stock market." So, you see, it's all about what kind of house have you built. The house is a metaphor for the personality, and in the case of someone who is pre-fourth monad completion, it is the false, not the true, personality that is presented to the world. There's going to be a whole lot of shaking going on when that house comes down.
Question: You would still experience it even if you were an older old soul?
Victoria: I think it depends upon what your life experience has been like, because some older souls have a house that looks more like the house that they will build. It isn't radically different. So again, it's back to "How different is your house?" If your house is really different, then the work is going to be more challenging. If not, the fourth monad may well be about more understanding and adjustment of the personality so that the essence can manifest and true work on the life task can begin.
Third Monad Impact: In order for a fragment to move into the fourth monad, there's usually a time period where the third monad has been completed in the positive pole, hopefully, before the fourth monad starts. The third monad is generally completed sometime in the early twenties, but it can be as late as thirty. If the person has finished the third monad by the time they get to their late twenties, they're likely to spend about ten years working in the world. There's a certain suddenness to the fixation point of the chief features, and once the primary [chief feature] fixates, then the third monad begins. So the third monad can actually last from twelve or fourteen to twenty-five. It could be a very long monad.
Often the person who is doing the third monad, however, does need a person whom they can push off from - someone to be their “rock". That's why a lot of people end up back in therapy because they need to develop a relationship with a counselor who serves as a surrogate parent, whom they can then push off from. And then, hopefully, if the relationship is going well, they may even be able to mentor them through the fourth monad too. So, it's a lot of work.
Question: What is the duration of the fourth monad?
Victoria: Okay, we would say that the duration of this 'event' has to do with the solidity of the false personality. In other words, how big is the house that you built?
Question: What is the average length of the monad?
Victoria: Four years. From "the pit" to the end.
Question: How hard is it really?
Paul: If you have something in your life like the Michael Teachings, or one of the other arcane systems --spiritual or psychological systems -- that actually, you know, cover this kind of stuff, it really helps a lot. It can make it a lot easier. It, surprisingly, can also make it harder, but usually I think it makes it easier if for no other reason than it's not so unexpected. You know, the earthquake isn't quite so terrifying, so on and so forth. If you know you're not crazy, it helps. And if you have some understanding that there is something that is supposed to happen at this point, and relax and go on with it, it will work better, you know, than if you fight it every step of the way 'cause you think it's not the way it's `supposed' to be. So having some sort of a guide in the form of a teaching, a system, or what have you, like the Michael Teachings or other teachings like that, can really change the length and severity (or whatever you want to call it) of the fourth monad.
Also during this fourth monad the family icon is broken. And that's a very, very big part of the fourth monad. It's the identifying and breaking of whatever projection your family had on you. That's really, really important because you might think of that like a casing that you wear and it's just going to be important to create your own way of being in the world that's really you. Now say that you've done your fourth monad, gone through it, you've made the changes, you know you've . . . say maybe you decided that you liked your job but you needed to make a few changes in it, you really weren't happy with your relationship and that's something you did change and maybe you started exploring your true work. Now this is what happens at the end of the fourth monad, once you have finished the internal processing and the changes that you needed to make, this is when the true work on the life task begins. This is kind of a daunting thought. It does not mean that we haven't done any work leading up to it, because we have. A lot of preparation work happens before the monad. If a person finishes the monad in the positive pole, which is self-realization, they then are ready to go into their life work with real focus. If they have not finished the monad in the positive pole and they are in the negative pole of resignation, then the likelihood is, at that point, that they will begin to experience difficulty.
Question: What about abdication?
Victoria: Right, and that happens also. The fragment comes up to this time in the late thirties or the forties and they know that they really need to make a change, but instead of letting the house fall apart, they start trying to put band aids up everywhere, and they try to kind of keep it together. So, they're not really willing to make it much different. Or, the house falls apart, and then they rebuild the same house. Or they build half a house, and then they give up. And that's the negative pole. That's very sad because that's the negative pole, which is resignation.
Question: In the band aid option . . . I mean is that really possible?
Victoria: It's an illusion. It's trying to keep it together and, and, you know the image that I'm getting is -- and we're talking is -- about the person trying to hold the walls up by plastering their arms and their feet out like this. You can't see this on the tape but it's like an "X" so that they're really trying to keep everything together even though it keeps shaking. That takes a huge amount of energy.
Paul: Well, they're identified more primarily with the false personality. It's the false personality that's trying to keep the false personality together. So part of what shifts in the fourth monad is you shift to the authentic you, but you have to discover the authentic you. And you go through a lot of grief of letting go of what you thought you were all this time. And the discovery process . . . there's a lot to it.
Question: I was just thinking though that sort of band aid or that building of the walls process actually lasted for something like ten years. Is that an indication that the slope somehow isn't as strong as it might be for someone who's house isn't really so big. It's kind of a small house and it's only shaking a little instead of a giant house. Comment?
Victoria: I guess it's the image of the cat hanging on for dear life. The claws are out like this. The visuals I get from this. They also wanted to say that another option, which is actually taken by a lot of people, is that the house just stays. That the shaking is happening, but the person ignores it, or it just never comes down. You know, so that the house remains the house, even though that isn't who they are. So that there are a lot of choices that happen in the mid-life transition and there are places along the process where you can abdicate. You know, where changes need to happen and so the overall structure of the fourth monad changes. People who have not done their monad are not usually happy campers and they often feel like, "I know what I want, why is it that this isn't happening?". This doesn't mean that this never happens with anybody 'cause it does. You know, we have time for reworking things and looking at structure and what we want to create in the world, but in this case, this is a person who is in their late forties and fifties -- and just feels really dissatisfied. Have you ever met anybody like that? You know, who really just doesn't feel like they're able to get to their life work. And often what needs to happen at that point is that they need to go back and identify the places in the monad where they abdicated and this can include the third monad. I know quite a lot of people who got to their fourth monad, did a little bit, just decided not to do it, and then later on decided they really needed to, and then found out they had third monad work to do. So, you go back and you find a place where you can do that work, and that can be in psychotherapy or it can be in all kinds of different kinds of expressive modalities: through artwork, through journaling. Often the person who is doing the third monad, however, does need a person where they can push off from that person. They need somebody. And that's why a lot of people end up back in therapy. Because they need . . . they develop a relationship with a counselor who serves as a surrogate parent, who they can then push off from. And then, hopefully, if the relationship is going well, they may even be able to mentor them through the fourth monad too.
Copyright 1999, 2001 Victoria Marina-Tompkins and Paul Avellar
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