The Third Internal Monad: Independence of Spirit
by Victoria Marina-Tompkins
Picture two teenagers. Both are 17 years old, live in the suburbs of a large Metropolitan city on the West coast, and both are male. They are both the firstborn children in a middle-class nuclear family of two parents, both professional, with a younger sibling. They've both got the dogs, the Sport Utility Vehicle, and the yearly vacations. Their families value education and have provided them with many opportunities during their childhoods, including computer camp, karate, soccer, and piano and guitar lessons. You'd think that life would be pretty good.
Teenager one or "David" is a good student, working towards admission into a small college, holding down a part-time job at the local music-video store, and has just bought his first car, a 1990 Honda civic. He is interested in graphic arts and has been playing guitar in a local garage band on the weekends. He gets along well with his parents for the most part, although he doesn't hold the same view of the world. They argue occasionally when he stays out too late drinking at the weekend party, but for the most part his life is moving in a positive direction. Jason on the other hand is surprisingly different based on all the contributing factors of his early childhood. He has dropped out of school, spending most mornings in bed. He has no money because he refuses to look for a job, borrows or steals it when necessary to support his drug habit, which includes smoking pot daily to numb out the feelings of unworthiness which are increasing every day. His hope for the future is bleak in his eyes; why bother if the world is so messed up anyway?
What do these adolescents have in common? They are both working through the 3rd Internal Monad. The Michael Teachings has a unique view of this transition in that the monad starts with the fixation point of the primary chief feature (self deprecation, self destruction, martyrdom, stubbornness, greed, arrogance, or impatience) which occurs anywhere between the ages of 12 and 18. When most baby-boomers were teens, the fixation point, which is the decisive incident which 'locks' the chief feature into a permanent place, occurred later in adolescence, mostly around age 16-18 for the primary and as late as the early twenties for the secondary chief feature fixation point. Many of today's teenagers are faced with experiencing the beginning of this difficult transition as early as age 12, which is not only confusing, but extremely difficult to complete in the positive pole of independence, and more likely to be completed in the negative pole of separation. There are many more young adults coming of age in a world that is full of violence and little hope, and their reaction is to give up and fall into the negative pole, attempting to separate from their parents, but doing so through more self destructive and less self aware avenues such as drug and alcohol addiction and teen pregnancy.
Michael has said that many of the young adults today died in their last lifetime prior to this one in the Viet Nam War, and that they were born with anger, resentment, and violence in their "energy banks". This is interesting in that many adults of our generation, those born in the late 40's and 50's, were victims of the Holocaust and are essentially in a continuation lifetime, attempting to work through many issues such as familial abuse (sexual, emotional, physical), while our children are in their continuation lives as victims of another war. Of course, not everyone had the same past life experience, so not everyone falls into the negative 3rd Monad pattern. But there are many adults in their 30's and 40s who did not complete the 3rd Monad in the positive pole. Some of the symptoms of this are an inability to do your life task, difficulty (or more than usual!) with the 4th Monad or Mid-life transition, feelings of utter hopelessness and lack of 'spiritedness'. Many adults who completed the 3rd Monad in the negative pole attempt to do their 4th monad, but find, in order to proceed, that they have to return to the 3rd Monad work which includes issues with authority, rebellion, and anger. It's like being a teenager all over again! It is possible to turn the 3rd monad around to the positive pole, or complete it if it was abdicated, through traditional psychotherapy or more alternative methods such as shamanic soul retrieval and hypnotherapy.
For those of us with teenagers, one of the best methods for assisting them through the transition is with mentoring. Finding a mentor who can assist them in finding their own way towards independence, through guiding them to explore their interests and to develop their talents and self esteem, can be extremely successful. Parents can then allow their children to push off from them in a healthier way, which will support them as they move towards the positive pole of the monad, Independence of Spirit. For those who have "catch-up" 3rd Monad work to do, do it now! Identifying the chief feature fixation points and addressing earlier issues can free up huge amounts of energy which may be inaccessible due to the depression which masks those unresolved feelings left over from the teenage years. It is after the successful completion of both the 3rd and the 4th internal monads that the true personality emerges and the work on the life task can begin in earnest.
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